Original People ❤

You have always regretted making plans with friends when they hang out, laugh, and talk about useless things. You know life is serious and they know that too, but you don’t see the point in wasting 3–4 hours in talking and laughing about things that don’t matter. Whenever you try to socialize, you end up regretting having agreed to catch up because you find it hard to connect with people and gatherings like this exhaust you. It’s not that you’re an introvert or shy — you have good communication skills, but it just doesn’t happen for you.At 23, you feel like speaking less and feel pressured when you have to talk to a person next to you, trying not to sound rude. You think it’s because you have a very specific set of interests and hobbies in life that aren’t common with people around you.

You wonder if only you feel this way or how a person living a similar life to yours can sound so irrelevant sometimes. You think maybe you’re gifted with some special kind of wisdom that they lack, or maybe they don’t have the same problems in life like you do? You cannot judge since everyone has a different story and a different approach to life.

For me, I believe that people share similar interests and emotions, they long for similar things in life but I have rarely seen two people express it or get creative with it. I myself wasn’t an expressive person until a few months ago and it was because I was hesitant to show people my true self because I had the same fear like others, being played on, being made fun of, being mishandled, however I think when you get to a certain age where you are in control of your life more, you should accept and show your original side more, and pretend less, laugh away the worries a little less, embrace your true self a little more, talk about your real self, because fulfilment only comes when you are connected to the world around you.

If you do not stay original, you will end up feeling hollow and lonely even in the brightest crowd because at some point in your life, you crave originality of heart, mind and soul, you crave real attention, real support, real care, real affection, real feelings. It is very important for the soul.

Bandage Your Own Wounds ❤

I will never deny that shit things happen to good people. Life can be cruel and harsh sometimes, sometimes very unfair that you can literally feel your heart breaking. Now that’s true that nobody wants to stay upset for too long over a disturbing episode of their life. We all want to get above it quickly to make room for better things to come but we feel mentally trapped in our own thoughts. Have you ever experienced a state like this?

I have been there. I am struggling with a similar emotion at the moment. My story revolves around “Be prepared for rejection if you refuse to be manipulated” so I’m kind of experiencing a new wave of emotions that comes with this acceptance. It is exhausting and I am trapped between so many unwanted feelings but I will get through this. I wonder when I became so strong.

I believe that if you want to feel fulfilled in your life in terms of career, emotions, mental health, your well being, relationships with people around you, you need to stop playing the victim first. There is always someone and something to blame when things don’t go right but the sad part is that it won’t make them fix what they broke nor take responsibility of the damage they’ve done. You have to fix it yourself in the end of the day.

Although it takes one sincere apology and a honest conversation to clear the air between two people, yet sadly someone might not love you enough to make things right. Only you have the power to make things better for yourself. So when something happens in your life, I encourage having the biggest pity party because it is important to feel what you need to feel but eventually you need to stop trying to find a reason for things happening with you because you won’t find one and you will end up wasting so much of your time and energy. You don’t want to reach to the point where emotional pain starts making you physically sick!

The sooner you drag yourself out of that victim zone, the sooner you will tend to find solutions to your problems rather than grieving over them for too long. It is important to cleanse you soul to be able to keep up your sparkle. Trust me when I say it, you are more previous, more talented and valuable than you think you are. Please put bandage on your wounds yourself. Stay strong! ❤